Tuesday, June 30, 2009

It's party season!

Last weekend was the official opening of "Party season"... in my world at least. We had a pre-season warm up when LittleMissIz had her first birthday party on June 14, then things really got underway last week. Here's the birthday schedule for the coming few months:
  • DesignerSis - 25th birthday dinner on June 25,
  • LittleMissP - 3rd birthday party on June 27,
  • MasterS - 1st birthday party on June 28,
  • FunkyOrganMan's daughter - 1st birthday party on July 4,
  • GrandPaul - 60th birthday party on July 4
  • LittleMissL - 3rd birthday party on July 19,
  • Gran - 61st birthday on August 1; then
  • BallFiend - 3rd birthday party on August 9.
There are a smattering of other birthdays for family, friends and playgroup mums and and bubs in August and September, but the majority are in June and July. Then there is a bit of a break before xmas brings on the next round of festivities.

Of course, this party-season phenomenon is hardly surprising, given that our 'mothers group' was set up by the maternal child health nurse specifically for mums who all had their babies within a 6 - 8 week period. The addition of second babies also born at this time of year only increases the party-season atmosphere!

It's all great fun - especially for BallFiend. Unfortunately he overdosed on party food at MasterS's party and was incredibly hyperactive for hours afterwards. He also got itchy rashes all over his body. So clearly something in the food wasn't good for him. I suspect it was food additives added to things like chips and 100s & 1000s (on fairybread).
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Saturday, June 27, 2009

I, Me, You...

I don't know I
I don't know me
I don't know you
Ha hee hoo
Ooh ooh ooh
A song, composed by BallFiend.

(Yep, he just came out and sang it while we were in the middle of eating dinner tonight - homemade smoked salmon and sweet potato pizza.)
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Friday, June 26, 2009

Quarter time

Assuming she lives to 100 years of age, yesterday marked quarter time for DesignerSis. It is hard to believe my baby sister is so very, very old! Nah, just kiddin' she's still just a kid. But a very mature, responsible and well-adjusted one... especially considering the sort of role models her big sisters have provided.

To celebrate 25 years since her birth, we all went out for dinner at Hellenic Republic with DesignerSis - me, DeepSpice, BallFiend, Wigward, CutLuce, DesignerMonkey and StompyDad. We ate ourselves to a standstill all, for around $32.00 each. The repast was fantastic - we had:
  • Dips (Taramosalata and Melitzanosalata)
  • Tiganites Patates (Deep fried potatoes chips)
  • Fasolakia (green beans with feta and pine nuts)
  • Kefalograviera Saganaki (Spanikopita served warm with peppered figs)
  • Patzari (beetroot roasted in cumin)
  • Revithia Plaki (chickpeas cooked in tomato and olive oil)
  • Loytianos (snapper, baked to perfection)
  • Chicken and Lamb off the spit
  • Moussaka
Followed by:
  • Bougatsa (Semolina custard wrapped in filo pastry)
  • Loukoumades (Greek donuts)
  • Risogalo (chocolate rice pudding)
The service was excellent, the food was excellent, the only thing I can really fault is that the music was too loud to talk over. This made it particularly challenging for keeping a tired, yet enthusiastic BallFiend in check.

He had refused to nap in the afternoon, so was particularly tired, then I had plonked him in creche for an hour and a half while DeepSpice and I did a parent re-education camp to learn some new strategies for dealing with those more difficult toddler/pre-schooler behaviours. Then we rushed out to dinner and kept BallFiend out till 8.00 pm (half an hour past his bedtime). However, a little after 8.00 pm, it was clear that BallFiend was exhausted so DeepSpice decided to take him home to bed, whilst I got to stay on and enjoy civilised adult conversation, and more importantly, dessert.
Apparently once he got home, he got a new burst of energy and ran through the house excitedly. However, DeepSpice skillfully calmed him down with a story and had in bed a mere 30 minutes after arriving home. To reward his altruism, I took home a donut for DeepSpice.

Overall, and despite his tiredness, BallFiend was very well-behaved for a 2.75 year old - he threw a few bits of food and made an interesting 'installation' in his water glass using nothing more than strips of lamb, Melitzanosalata and paper serviettes. Mm-mmm! He also seemed to enjoy eating the food - he tried the chicken, beetroot, the dips and pita bread but was fairly cautious about trying other things. As he is getting older, it is getting easier to eat out with a small child... pity this newly acquired possibility for a social life is about to be smashed to smithereens when Thumper arrives in just over two months time.
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Thursday, June 25, 2009

Return of the Twisty One

Made the trip down to the local op shop this morning to:
(a) drop off the results of my latest decluttering (a big bag of clothes and a few toys), and
(b) try and find a few more maternity items to keep me clad for the next couple months.

I am running out of pants because my recently-acquired maternity wardrobe is mostly light-weight linen pants best suited to Summer and the office-wear pants remaining from my first pregnancy are too small. I have been getting very sick of wearing the same one pair of pants to work and the same one pair of 'mushroom' colour corduroy pants when I am not working. I also have a stretchy elasticised belt to connect up the fly of normal, non-maternity pants. The kit is a set of three belts but unfortunately I have lost the smallest one, which is the size that I need to be able to wear my regular jeans. DeepSpice's leather belt is a reasonable, but not terribly comfortable, replacement. So I was pleased to find a couple of pairs of pants that will hopefully see me through to the end of the pregnancy. I also looked for coat or cloak that would fit over my bump, but no luck... only really ugly and massively-too big ones available.

BallFiend of couse was my faithful companion on this shopping trip, and he had been very patient while I tried on 6 pairs of pants in the fitting rooms, so afterwards we went to look at the toys. In a dusty, dark corner at the back of the store, he was delighted to find a Twisty One and since it was only $4.99, how could I not indulge him? We also found a pack of 10 used golf balls for $3.99 which I got for him to take to creche. (His carer said if I could bring in some golf balls she would set up an activity for the kids to do golf-ball paintings, just like Justine does on one of BallFiend's favourite episodes of Play School.)

I also picked up a replacement beanie for BallFiend (his other one has disappeared at crèche) and a cot mattress protector. Then when we got to the check-out, there was a big shelf of little toys and an invitation to 'pack your own bag' for $3.99. Of course, amongst the toys were plenty of small balls, some just the right size to fit the Twisty One, and given that my chances of wresting any of these back from a now hungry and tired BallFiend were zero, zip and zilch, I let him fill up a bag.

Then we rushed home, so that we could eat, squeeze in a nap for BallFiend and get ready for a busy afternoon and evening. DeepSpice and I are going to a free parenting seminar at BallFiend's crèche, then in the evening we are all going out for dinner to celebrate DesignerSis's quarter-century.
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Monday, June 22, 2009

Pregancy update: 29+2

I am now 29 weeks pregnant (plus 2 days to be really precise) and had another check up with the midwife today; I was accompanied to my appointment by MidwifeS.

It is all good news...
My glucose tolerance test results are fine, so no further testing for gestational diabetes. Hooray! My blood pressure is normal. And, Thumper is measuring at an average size for gestation! So no worries about it being a bit too large. Hooray again!

It must be noted that the first midwife to measure the height of the fundus got a reading consistent with 32 weeks pregnant, which freaked me out just a little bit! Then she tried to listen to Thumper's heartbeat with the doppler, but had trouble getting a reading. So she got another midwife in who got a measurement consistent with 29 weeks - 30 weeks. Phew! The second midwife also found Thumper's heartbeat without too much touble at all. The belly-poking and prodding also determined that Thumper is lying head down, bum up, with its back towards my left side.

Then I did a pre-arranged tour of the regular birthing suites and materity wards (just in case I end up in there rather than in the FBC for whatever reason). The birthing suites are pretty much standard issue - largish rooms, with up-and-down type 'birthing' beds, en suite, resusitation table in a cabinet, etc. They offer a range of equipment for labouring mums (gym balls, floor mats, bean bags, birth stools, etc.).

The maternity wards where mums and bubs have their post-natal stay are also quite nice and modern. A basic clean room with two beds, separated by a curtain. Sink for bathing the baby, TVs (as if you would have time to watch one!), a wardrobe and drawers, bar fridge, telephone and a chair to feed in. Down the hallway are a few little sitting areas. But I also found out that the hospital has 7 single rooms with double beds to allow partners to stay. These are only available to mums who have had a normal, uncomplicated birth and who want their partners to stay with them. So if the need arises, I have to remember to ask for the 'partner package'.

Then MidwifeS and I stopped for a late morning tea and spent some time chatting about all things birth-related. I headed home after making my third toilet-stop for the morning whilst in the hospital and was halfway back to the car (as usual, I had to park miles away because find a parking space anywhere within 1km of the hospital is a nightmare), when I realised I had left my folder of pregnancy notes in the toilet. Stupid pregnancy-brain.

Overall, I am feeling much better about the pregnancy and birth now - I think getting the reassurance that my health is good and my baby is growing at a normal rate has made a big difference. Now if only I can get over this stupid cold and sore throat...
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Sunday, June 21, 2009

The great separation

Just enjoyed a lovely dinner (roast chicken and vegies, in particular my favourite - roast potatoes, beetroot and carrots!) at Gran and GrandPaul's house, then left BallFiend there for TWO WHOLE NIGHTS! The longest time he has been away from us ever!

This is part of preparations for Baby #2, who is now referred to as Thumper, because of the great big wallops I have been feeling for the past couple of months. (Whilst in utero, BallFiend was referred to as "The Wrigglor!" because he wriggled and tickled a lot, but didn't really thump as far as I can recall.)

The plan is for BallFiend to spend at least two nights with Gran and GrandPaul whilst Thumper makes its grand entrance. So this is trial run #1, with trial run #2 planned for July or August.

Anyway, after dinner, we got BallFiend into bed, then DeepSpice and I went home to our weirdly empty-feeling house. It's only for two nights, and I will see him again on Tuesday morning... but I am sure I will be missing him terribly by tomorrow evening.
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Friday, June 19, 2009

crooked food

"My food went crooked."
BallFiend, coughing as a bit of food went down the wrong way.
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Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Baby caddie

At the playground this morning with HM and MasterT:

BallFiend: "I have a baby."

HM: "Do you?"

BallFiend: "Yes. I keep it in here." (pointing to my belly)

HM: "That's very convenient for you."

I wonder if BallFiend will also expect me to be his caddie when he takes up golf?
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Thursday, June 11, 2009

Testing times

Yet another hectic morning... I had decided to go and have the Glucose Challenge Test (GCT) today. I had phoned the pathology collection centre nearest my house a few days previously to check what I needed to do (and was told no appointment necessary, allow 2 hours, no fasting, etc. ... and advised bring a book to read!). I arranged for Gran and GrandPaul to babysit BallFiend, and planned my entire morning around having the test done.

So much for planning! Turns out that the real test was a test of my patience (and I hereby award another black mark against my hospital ... although admittedly, they are not entirely at fault). The pathology request slip listed a clinic in East Brunswick as a collection centre, and being only 5 minutes from home I decided to go there for the test rather than make the 30 minute trek out to the hospital pathology department. However, when I arrived at the clinic, I was told that the slip was out-of-date and that they no longer provide pathology collection services to my hospital. The pathology technician was very apologetic - he said that the hospital had given me an out-of-date slip.

So I jumped back in the car and rushed out to the hospital. Once again, no parking within 2 light-years. By the time I got inside, the pathology waiting area was full of people. I waited about 25 minutes then received my ever-so-tasty fizzy, glucose drink.

As I had an hour to wait until the blood sample was due to be taken, I dropped into the Family Birth Centre to tell them their pathology request slips are out-of-date. The midwife was grateful to be told this and said she would let the other midwives know. Then I sat down and worked on my "list of things to pack for hospital" until it was time to have the blood sample taken. By now, the waiting area was almost empty. Clearly I would have been better to put off doing the GCT until the afternoon!

At 12.00 pm I was back in the car and on my way home. All was going well, until I got to a train crossing just as the boom gates went down. However, not a train in sight! There was a side street just a metre ahead of me, taunting me with a way out, except I was in the right lane and there were two other lanes of traffic blocking my way. Thankfully, after nearly 10 minutes of waiting for the non-existent train to pass, the cars in the other two lanes finally got a clue and took a detour via the side street. At last I could escape (which I promptly did) and took an alternative route home.

I was greeted by BallFiend: "You go away mum! Go back to work!", a typical welcome-home when he is annoyed with DeepSpice or myself for leaving him.
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Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Big Earth Ball

"That's a big Earth ball... you couldn't pick that up!"
BallFiend, on seeing an animated image of the Earth during the weather report on the 7.00 pm television news.

Comment from DeepSpice: "I could almost hear the gears spinning [in BallFiend's mind] as he tried to work out a way he could pick it up!"
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Sunday, June 07, 2009

Pregnancy update

Now that I am in my third trimester (a fact which had to be pointed out to me by VolubleK, as I was living in denial, and insisting that I was still in the second!), I thought it would be timely to do a quick preggie update.

Measurements at 27 weeks pregnant:
  • Waist: 103 cm (was 87 cm pre-pregnancy)
  • Hips: 114 cm (was 104 cm pre-pregnancy)
  • Weight gain: 6.5 kg
The bump is unmissable now, which is good because it makes getting seat on the tram easier. However bad as I am now big enough to be quite uncomfortable in bed. I have had to sleep on my side for many weeks now, with a squishy pillow tucked in under the bump, and as of last week, a cushion between my knees (to keep my upper leg horizontal from the hip to the knee).

I am big enough that I can't bend forward easily (so trimming toenails is pretty challenging) but I haven't yet reached the stage of frequently knocking my bump into things, as a result of miscalculating my own inflated abdomen's size (something I did quite a bit towards the end of my first pregnancy.)

Current aches and pains:
  • Deep soreness in my right gluteal muscle, particularly aches at night and often the pain extends down into my hamstring and calf muscles.
  • A stabbing muscle pain, like a stitch on the lower right side of my belly if I walk for more than about 5 minutes at a reasonable pace.
  • Ribs are sore, especially lowest ribs on right side - feels like they are being pushed outwards (they probably are!)
  • Sacroiliac joint feels 'stuck' and is often achy.
  • Occasional heartburn, but as with my first pregnancy, this was worst around 20 - 22 weeks, and has subsided since. If I keep following the same pattern as when I was pregnant the first time, I anticipate that it will return with avengance towards the end of the pregnancy.
Nocturnal interruptions
  • Toilet breaks at 1.30 am and 3.30 am on a typical night.
  • Early breakfast at 5.30 am (occasional not regularly required, thankfully!)
  • On the plus side, BallFiend has been very consistent in his overnight sleeping patterns, in bed at 7.30 pm and waking sometime between 6.45 am to 7.30 am. (This morning he slept in till 8.15 am... Bliss!!)
The tenant
  • kicks a lot and very vigourously, however there are long periods of quiet in between these periods of activity. This gives me cause for hope that, once on the outside, the baby might fall into a regular pattern of sleeping fairly quickly.
  • could be a big one! According to the 20 week morphology ultrasound scan, the baby was measuring a little large for gestation age. At my most recent check-up, the midwife also said that the baby is measuring large. This could mean nothing, other than the baby is a bit bigger than average, or it could mean that the baby is actually a week older than I originally thought (ie. I got my dates wrong), or it could mean that I have gestational diabetes! Argh!
Fitness regime
  • Yoga class each Saturday, usually accompanied by The Librarian, who is about 9 weeks more pregnant than me. Finally found a new class that is suitable, after being excluded from my usual yoga class due to being pregnant (my teacher's insurance no longer covers her to teach pregnant women, even though she was insured to teach my last time I was pregnant... stupid insurer, changing the rules!)
  • Tried the pre-natal/post-natal class at the local fitness centre. It was OK, but a little too gentle, not really what I was looking for (though I think this will be excellent for post-natal fitness and intend to go after Baby #2 is born).
  • Walking. Not in a dedicated, once-a-week type of way, like I used to do when BallFiend was 6 months old, but I do try take every opportunity to walk, aches and pains permitting.
  • Thinking of either going swimming or water aerobics (but heading into Winter makes this less appealing) or going to the general fitness class at the physio around the corner from my house.
General Health
  • Diet is not great I have to admit. I am just not as motivated to maintain an 'excellent' diet, in the same way that I was the first time I was pregnant. Could be a result of having to prepare meals that a fussy toddler will eat. Could just be that chocolate tastes better than silver beet. Still I am eating a reasonably balanced diet so not doing too badly.
  • I have been taking Vitamin C in a (pathetic) attempt to try and strengthen my immune system against the impending threat of Swine Flu. (Given BallFiend is at crèche twice a week, mixing with kids whose older siblings are probably attending flu-infected primary schools, I have a horrible feeling that it is only a matter of time until someone in our household gets it.)
  • Sore throat persists. It first developed after CutLuce's Hens Night and lingered around for weeks, finally flaring up again just in time for her wedding. It remains a low-grade sore throat, mainly affecting my right tonsil, not bad enough to see a doctor or take sick leave but sore enough to be annoying. Stupid suppressed-due-to-pregnancy immune system.
Birth/Baby preparation
  • Having been trying to do some reading of birthing techniques, etc., but not motivated enough yet... guess I need to be closer to delivery-date.
  • I am remembering to do my pelvic floor exercises most days.
  • Nesting instinct - hasn't really kicked in yet but I did get really motivated to tidy up and declutter the house over the past week or so.
  • Bought a mattress for the baby-basket that will serve as bassinette for Baby #2. This was the basket that I slept in as an infant. I had intended to use it with BallFiend, but never got around to buying a new mattress for it. So this time I am being more organised: $20 at Clarke Rubber got me a 50mm foam mattress. Hooray!
  • Have ordered a sofabed so that either DeepSpice or I have an alternative place to go and sleep when Baby #2 is keeping us up all night. Plus, if I go into labour in the middle of the night, we can have a family member (probably CutLuce) come and stay with BallFiend overnight, while DeepSpice carts me off to the birth centre.
  • Trying to interest BallFiend in using the potty, moving out of his cot into a big bed and numerous other 'big boy' things. He occasionally shows interest in toileting, has adamantly stated how much he loves his cot and doesn't want a big bed like all his playgroup friends, frequently asks to be spoon-fed (which we hadn't been doing for some months previously) and has even started to play-act being a baby (crawling, cuddling, etc.). Still, I have no intention of telling him that he has to grow up and be a big brother... afterall, I wouldn't be doing that if there wasn't a sibling on the way. As an eldest child myself, I often disliked being made to be the grown-up, responsible one, just because I was the eldest.
  • Organising maternity leave arrangements. I am very lucky as I qualify for 6 months maternity leave (or 12 months maternity leave at half-pay) and on top of this I am also due for long service leave. So if I want to, I can take up to 18 months off work in total. But it is a really hard deciding exactly how long to take - what is best for my children vs my career, etc.

PS. So much for a quick update!
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Compelling reading

by Catherine Jinks

Whilst a story about a pioneering New South Wales family and the hardships they face in the 1800s should be interesting, one wouldn’t necessarily expect it to be compelling. Yet I couldn’t put this book down.

The story is told through the eyes of the eldest daughter Charlotte, as she grows up under the shadow of her stepfather, a violent drunkard (her own father having died a few years previously). A central focus of the story is Charlotte’s quest to find out why her mother would marry such a man, and as a result, lead her family into danger and despair. We can only know what Charlotte knows, so as there are gaps in her ability to comprehend her situation, we are in the dark too. As the story unfolds and Charlotte progresses into adulthood, we come to understand more of why her mother may have done the things she did.

The book is based on a real family, the Atkinsons, who lived at Oldbury, NSW, Australia.

Thursday, June 04, 2009

Dinosaurs and poo

One of BallFiend's current favourite stories, The Berenstain Bears and the Missing Dinosaur Bone, follows the adventures of the three Berenstein bear children as they try to solve the mystery of who took a dinosaur bone from a museum display.

So, rather than staying in and cleaning the house, I decided I would take him to museum instead, as they have a dinosaur exhibition on at the moment. A train journey and dinosaur bones! What more could a two-and-three-quarter-year old boy ask for!

I got BallFiend dressed, did a quick load of washing and hung it on the line (despite showers being forecast for the afternoon), packed the nappy bag (into which BallFiend also packed a toy car, a ball and a book), and some sandwiches for lunch, then we were off in time to catch the 10.10 am train. The train journey was well received - so much so that once we got off, BallFiend cried, demanded to go back on 'my train'.

On arriving at the museum, I realised that this whole excursion was probably a really bad idea from a health-perspective: there were swarms of primary school kids everywhere (and all dressed in the most ghastly uniforms. Honestly! Who comes up with the designs, the colour schemes!!), touching everything with their probably-swine-flu-infected hands. And BallFiend was of course following along and touching every surface that the other kids had just touched. Being pregnant, I really, really don't want to get the flu. Stoically, I pulled out my bottle of antiseptic handgel and we continued on.

BallFiend seemed to quite enjoy it, although didn't seem to be especially impressed by the enormous dinosaur skeletons. What he liked was the interactive displays - buttons to press, wheels to spin, levers to pull, etc. - and running around on the small stairways, ramps and tunnels that connected different areas and rooms. He also liked:
  • the giant squid and the accompanying animated movie showing a whale catching a squid for lunch;
  • the funny mirrors which distort one's image. (Not something that really appealed to me, since my bump already makes me feel like a beached whale, seeing myself looking even fatter and dumpier was not what I needed!);
  • the bugs - butterflies, moths, ants, enormous spiders, praying mantis, beetles, etc.; and
  • various other stuffed/preserved animals or their skeletons (snake, monkey, gorilla, platypus, fish, turtle and more).
The thing he liked most was playing outside in the Children's Garden. This area is not so much a garden as a rubber-asphelted space with a few trees dotted through it. But it does have fun activities for 'children aged 3 - 8' such as stilts, hula hoops, shapes to jump on, quoits, blocks to build with and some tuned wooden boxes which play a scale when walked on. BallFiend spent most of his time kicking his own ball around the place, until he saw a grandfather showing his grand-daughter how to roll a hoop. Oh the joy! A new thing that rolls around and can spin. BallFiend was capitvated and from then on it was hoops, hoops, hoops.

Whilst in the Garden, I bumped into JH, a friend of Gran and GrandPaul's. She was there with her grandson who is a year younger than BallFiend. I suddenly became aware that majority of adults in the Garden were either (a) grandparents, (b) pregnant women with one child, or (c) mothers with two children under three years. No wonder every single adult there looked rather worn out. The only adult who didn't look tired was a staff member who's job seemed to be returning the quoits, hoops and stilts back to their stations. She didn't look tired, but did look grumpy. I know how she feels... I am so sick of picking up balls and other toys around our house and putting them away 15 times a day!

After the Garden, we trekked up the long, long ramp, past the rainforest garden (because the lift was out of order) to the human body exhibition. We saw preserved specimens of human tissue - including a brain, a digestive system and a skeleton. There was also an interactive display of how food is digested. BallFiend particularly liked the model of a poo (enclosed in a perspex display case... and I hope it was just a model!). He also liked the full-scale sculptures of a (naked) human family which shows how humans age. The sculptures are based on a real family of people covering an age range of 75 years to an infant aged 2 weeks. (It was slightly unsettling when BallFiend grabbed the penis of the 75 year old man, but thankfully there was no one else around to see.)

Next stop: the cafe for lunch and afterwards BallFiend enjoyed a babycino (with a marshmallow on the side!) and a gingerbreadman biscuit. Then a quick stop at the museum shop where I got a little, cube-shaped puzzle with small, metal balls inside that you have to try to fit into little holes. BallFiend loved it, playing with it non-stop all the way home.

The train journey home was uneventful, except BallFiend had developed a cough (Argh! Swine Flu? Bloody primary school kids!) and I had to keep covering his mouth for him, since he refused to do it himself. Once home, I was totally exhausted but BallFiend was full of energy and didn't want to have a nap. Thankfully he did, eventually... and I got to rest for about half-an-hour before he was up again and running about like a maniac.

The high-spirits continued all evening, all through dinner, and getting ready for bed. Thankfully DeepSpice was home at 5.30 pm to help take over while I collapsed on the couch. Eventually, a recording of an old Play School episode was deployed to help calm our little bundle of energy and he was finally in bed at 8.00 pm.
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Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Twine...

I'm just undunning the ball.
BallFiend unrolling a ball of twine.
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